Saturday, August 4, 2012

The Car has stopped, now what?

I pressed the disconnect option, “harder” this time. I knew the best was over and there was no point dragging it. But even after I explained her thrice, she wasn’t ready to understand. How immature can people be? It’s not a leaking tap that a mere twist of a wrench will fix it. We human beings are far more complex. And then she called again, the same name, the same number and that smiling picture of hers. She had started haunting me now. I switched the phone off.


“We are dogs chasing cars. Don’t know what to do when they stop” said a visibly drunk Vineet radiating sainthood and banged his fist on the table to prove his point. He listened to everything I narrated for over three hours and almost three quarters of Johnny Walker. But his take on the topic was top class. “We are the dogs chasing cars. Don’t know what to do when they stop”. True.



It started almost three months back when I offered her my seat in Delhi Metro. The kind gesture led to numerous smiles and coy glances. “Art of communication” is the only sure shot tool for a nerdy, bespectacled and not-exactly-a-great-looking-guy like me. And I utilized it to my full potential when the uncle on the next seat decided to leave at the next station. She was breathtakingly gorgeous and had the exuberance of a teen. She was excited about everything- her life, her friends and her work. I told her I wasn’t working and that I was just employed. She scribbled a note and handed it to me before leaving. I knew it was her number even before opening it. Well, it was her email id.


And those ten digits took almost 20 days to come to my phone. She was a tough nut to crack and I loved every bit of the pursuit. Every day was a challenge, for every smile that I managed to bring to her face, I patted my back twice. For every appreciative glance she passed at me, I mentally congratulated myself. I sang for her and she smiled. I wrote for her and she smiled. I acted crazy for her and she smiled.


And one fine day she decided to sing and write and act crazy for me. I didn’t smile. I was happy but that was because my ego got a huge massage. I felt good. The hat on my head had another feather and by far the most colorful one. And then she started feeling like a possession and then a liability and then a burden. The car had stopped and the dog had no idea. There were other cars speeding ahead, I decided to chase them.


And this was not the first time, the fifth time I guess or seventh or maybe I lost the count. There is something wrong with me or as Vineet says after his body and soul are full with Alcohol – “We set off for a destination but it’s the path we fall in love with, not the destination”. Philosophical but true.


The path, the pursuit of love excites me. When I chase a girl, I see her all around me - in my ideas, in my actions and in every part of mine. I see her on my car’s windscreen when I drive and every song that plays in the stereo somehow relates to her. When I try a new shirt in the trial room I mentally ask for her opinion. Yes, I become hopelessly romantic. And maybe, since the climb is so startling, the descent is dramatic too. Or as Vineet would say “It’s all temporary madness my friend, it too will die down”.


I am a spendthrift, a man with extreme fondness for a fine lifestyle and saving is always the last thing on my mind. When you crave for a superlative lifestyle, you have to part with your cash and I do that compulsively and hence stay empty handed most of the time. I am a spendthrift in matters of love too. I spend all pennies of love even when it needs to be preserved to be used in times of adversity. And consequently when the dire moment comes, I turn my face towards richer vistas. I hate looking at the venture whose budget has been depleted. The emotional budget has been depleted. Vineet wouldn’t brand me a villain and would assert coolly “Love is eternal, partners change”.


But am I the only one? Or I am just being vocal about myself, like I was vocal about my self-obsession a couple of months back. I have seen my friends leaving their phones unattended and then making the most horrendous excuses to justify their acts. At least I am Satan enough to pick the call and let it all out. How do people survive in long relationships then and what about those “Lived Happily ever after” couples? Do I have commitment issue? No, of course not because I don’t mind my space being invaded by someone I love, even if that’s a temporary feeling.


Maybe people like me need a mid-path in relationships as well, like we do in all spheres of life. Maybe, people like me need a more calculated approach in matters of heart and not a headfirst dive . Maybe people like me need to save the best for the worst.


And as I hate to believe maybe people like me don’t deserve love or as Vineet would put it “You know what dude, narcissists like you and I stay single. No big deal!!”.

17 comments:

K.S Vinodh said...

I can identify myself with your writeup, word-by-word...Has happened to me so many times. Good Honest explanation.

pooja gaur said...

I have been listening to this and experiencing it since ages :X

Mallika said...
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Mallika said...

Amazingly lucid and very well written. It is ardently close to every individual as no matter what, everyone has gone through this at least once in their lives! :)And not to forget, I love the Heading and the metaphor added to that!! Keep up the good work!

V!NEET said...

Brilliant, to say the least... "Exactly" what I meant that day.....
I mean I have felt the same so many times but I couldnt hav expressed it so well... I now hav found a solution to it I feel....lets meet and sort this out... Only You, me and Jhonnie... :)
N yeah u r caught in the wrong job Mr. Employed.

Atul Kumar Mishra said...

Thank you guys...Loved your feedback :-)

and Vineet - Sure mate. The "Vineet" is always right! :P

Akansha said...

Kudos...terrifically expressed!!

Akansha said...
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Atul Kumar Mishra said...

Thanks Akansha :-)

Vasudha Maini said...

Great work Atul :)
I liked the title !

Sarita Mishra said...

Very well written Atul !! I was engrossed till the last sentence

Atul Kumar Mishra said...

Thank you Vasudha and Sarita :-) Though I was expecting fiery feedback from ladies!

Reckoning Mind said...

Thats why they have marriage to tie down male butterflies like you, and the entire male race has to share the blame!

Jokes apart,this post has once again reaffirmed that humans are weird and there is no point in running after someone who is running towards you. It would be nothing more than a clash.

The lover here sounds more like a Hutch/Vodafone puppy who is thrilled to bits while running after his master.

And yes, Vineet is a "dial-a-quote" prophet. My salutations!

Atul Kumar Mishra said...

Lol! a five star comment :-) Thank you

V!NEET said...

@Reckoning Mind: Thank you sir :) !!!

Sophie Carr said...

Hi there, the image of the dog chasing the car was taken by me and has been used without permission or attribution; please can you remove it asap.
Thanks,
Sophie Carr

Atul Kumar Mishra said...

Hey Sophie,

How are you doing? What if I add the Picture credits section along with your Full name, Blog/Website URL? If that's fine by you, do let me know and if not, I'll put it down.

BTW, Did you like the article?

Thanks,
Atul